The Insecure Inner Child

I don't like to admit it, but im scared. Of everything.
Of leaving my friends and family, of losing them and losing myself. I like being the one in control, knowing what needs to be done and being able to do it, lately i havn't felt like i can do that.
What can you say to a friend who needs help, when deep down you know you need help too. Its easy to just forget and just pretend your okay, but it just takes one person to break through the mask and it all spills out. How can you control your life when you still feel like a scared little child. How can you achieve anything when it seems like everyone is better than you?
This life is just a big game, play by the rules of the people above you and you can't go wrong, thats what they say, but they never mention that in playing by their rules, you often have to compromise your own. Things are rarely ever win win.
But what of the people who can't play by the rules, who are so strong willed that it crushes who they are to follow the rules of others, and what of all those people 'above you' who are corrupt and expect you to be the same?
I suppose its a matter of choice, follow on and forget part of who you are, or fight and be outcast for being independant. Self reliance is all well and good, but people are soical beings, and you can't rely on yourself forever. You'd go insane. So where do these people fit in? Or do they not fit in at all, have they ejected themselves from the social hierarchy, freeing themselves of status but also of the ability to fit in?
I guess that just depends on what you consider to be fitting in, and how highly you value it. Inside though, i suspect we are all still scared little children at times, always looking for a way to grow above the turmoil of life and social standing.